Why I’ll Never Apologize for Being a Young Mom



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Since I was around the young age of 15, after my kid sister was born, I knew I wanted to be a mom.

I just knew that it was what I was destined to do and that I would do whatever it takes to become a mom. I waited until I graduated high school, and I had my first daughter when I was 19 years old, almost 20.

While it does sound like a young age, I was actually the oldest woman in my family to have a child. My grandma was 16 when she had my dad, and my mom was 17 when she had me. I knew I had my whole life ahead of me, but I wanted my kids to be there for it too. I had a full time job, I was going to school, and I had the support of my friends and family. When she was born it was like fate just hit me and I knew that it was right, being a mother was for me and it was all I wanted in life. I didn’t care what obstacles got in my way, everything would be okay, because I had her.

When my daughter was 8 months old I got pregnant again, but this time, not in the best circumstances.

I had just gotten into a new relationship and it turned out that he was very abusive. I didn’t enjoy the pregnancy the way I did the first time, and I will always regret that.

But the second I wised up and got out of the unhealthy relationship, I was able to cherish the last few months I had with my baby in my belly. When my second daughter was born, again, something just clicked. Motherhood seemed so easy to me and I felt like a natural. Sure they had their days where I just wanted to pull my hair out, but it still felt right. I was working full time and I was making it on my own, living my life with my kids by my side.

After my second daughter was born I looked into surrogacy, as it was something I had always wanted to do because I had great, healthy pregnancies, I was in a stable situation, and I wanted to help someone else feel the happiness that I felt as a mother.

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I am currently on my second surrogacy journey, I’ve already had one healthy baby boy for a family with no children, and in August I will hopefully deliver another healthy baby to a new family. I’ve experienced becoming a mother myself, and helping someone else become a mother, and I can’t even describe the happiness it brings me.

My oldest daughter is now 5 years old, and I have 3 beautiful children of my own, and will soon be a surrogate mother to 2. I’ve had 4 kids in 5 years, soon to be 5 kids in 6 years. I am only 25 years old, and I would go back and do it again if I could. I cherish every day I have watching them grow, throw temper tantrums, kissing boo boos, and helping them learn. I have a full time job, I go to school still, and my kids are getting to watch me grow too.

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Not to mention that I will get to live life with them and watch them grow as parents too when they get older. I think anyone can be a great mother whether at age 16 or 60,  as long as there is love, support, and confidence surrounding you.

I am doing it, and I am doing a great job at it, so why would I apologize for it?

I don’t feel the need to explain myself to anyone because the fact is, I am doing the best job I can, and my young age hasn’t and won’t change that!

What age did you first become a mom? Share it with us in the comments below!

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Samantha Stradley
Samantha is a San Diego native who manages to balance raising three girls (4, 3, and 7 months), and working full time. She enjoys being outdoors and exploring different parts of San Diego with her family when she isn't working. She is always trying to meet other moms and enjoys setting up lots of play dates for her girls to make new friends. Always trying the new craze, she is constantly learning about essential oils, cloth diapering, and other eco-friendly options for everyday use. She also has a slight addiction to baby wearing and has a small collection of Tula baby carriers. Samantha also loves singing and catching up on the Amazing Race and Survivor in her spare time. Samantha has been a surrogate mother and loves telling everyone she meets about the amazing journey of helping other families have children of their own, she can't wait to be a surrogate mother again. A busy lifestyle is what keeps her going!


  1. You are such a good mom, Sammy. I loved being a young mom too… not so much the stereotypes, but the energy. AND we are still young when our kids are old enough to conquer the world! WIN all around… You inspire!!!


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